Dear Ladies,

Happy Women's Day! A lot is said on how men should change for us to respect our women better. Here are some: Men need to see women as people, not objects. Men should realize and truly believe women are as talented, capable as men, and sometimes even more so. Men should not discriminate in the work place or at home. Men have to respect boundaries and make sure their words to not make women feel uncomfortable. Men have to respect women's choices - in what they wear, where they want to go and at what time. Men should never use force or intimidation towards women.

Yes, men have to learn. However, the stubborn, fragile and pampered Indian male ego is a tough nut to crack. Collectively, as Indian men, have a long way to go before our women can be proud of us. 

But in all this well deserved male-bashing, I hope the ladies do not miss out on another set of changes required, on themselves. Yes, for all the talk of women being denied their proper place in society, ladies need to do some self-reflection too.

Five things I feel women need to change about themselves, to make things better for their own kind.

The first behaviour that needs to end is the constant desire to judge other women. Women are hard on themselves. They are harder on each other. An overweight woman enters the room. Most women are thinking 'how fat is she?' A working mother misses a PTA meeting due to an office deadline, others think 'what a terrible mother she is'. A girl in a short skirt makes other women go 'Slut!' in their heads. A pretty woman's promotion makes other women wonder what she had been up to to get the job. From an ill-fitting dress to a badly cooked dish, you are ready to judge others. This, despite knowing, you yourselves are not perfect. As a woman, it is tough enough is to survive in a male dominated world. Why be so hard on each other? Can you let each other breathe?

Second, the faking needs to end. A common female trait is the relatively quick adaptation to feed male egos. Laughing at men's jokes when they aren't funny, accepting a raw deal in an office assignment or playing dumb to allow a man to feel superior are just a few occasions when you do your own kind no favor. Who are you? And why can't you be that person? Why are you faking it so much? If something bothers you, say it. What's the point of collectively harping on equality, when as individuals, you are happy to lapse into being clueless eye flutterers, just to keep men happy?

Three, and this is serious, standing up for your property rights. Plenty of Indian women give up their lawful property rights for their brothers, sons or husbands. Sorry if it sounds harsh, but too many Indian women are emotional fools and need to be told so. You are not demonstrating your eternal selflessness when you give away your property. You are hurting your own kind.

Four, women need to become more ambitious and dream bigger. All young Indians - men and women, should have a fire in their belly. Perhaps the way the Indian society is structured, our women are not encouraged to be as ambitious as men. However, for their own sake and the nation's sake, all Indian youth must have ambitions and aspirations to do well and reach their maximum potential in life. Many Indian women have done much better than men. Use them as inspiration and work towards your dreams. Your success is what will finally make Indian men respect women. Play your part.

Five, don't be too trapped in the drama of relationships. Relationships are vital. Being a good mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend and lover are extremely important. However, don't get too tangled. You have another relationship, with yourself. Don't sacrifice so much that you lose yourself. Not regularly, but just every now and then, be a little selfish. It is when a woman will assert herself she will be taken seriously. You are not only here to assist others in living their lives. You have your own life too.

humne jo ki thi mohabbat aaj bhi hai..
tere ehssas k saaye ki chahat aaj bhi hai..
raat katti hai aaj bhi tere khayalo me..
diwano si wo meri haalat aaj bhi hai...
kisi aur k tasavvur me uthti nhi..
beimaan aankho me thodi si sharafat aaj b hai..
chah k ek baar fir chahe chodh dena tu..
dil tod tjhe jane ki ijazat aaj b hai...

It was their anniversary, and "Aisha" was waiting for her husband "Rajiv" to show up.
Things had changed since their marriage, the once cute couple couldn’t-live-without- each-other had turned bitter.
Fighting over every little things, both didn’t like the way things had changed.Aisha was waiting to see if Rajiv remembered it was their anniversary!
Just as the door bell rang she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand.
The two started re-living the old days. Making up for fights, then was d plan for champagne, light music And it was raining outside! It was perfect.
But the moment paused when the phone in the bedroom rang.
Aisha went to pick it up and it was a man. “Hello ma’am I’m calling from the police station. Is this Mr Rajiv Mehra’s number?” “Yes it is!”
“I’m sorry ma’am; but there was an accident and a man died.We got this number from his wallet; we need you to come and identify his body.”
Aisha’s heart sank.!!! She was shocked!
But my husband is here with me?”
“Sorry ma’am, but the incident took place at 2 pm, when he was boarding the train.”
Aisha was about to lose her conscience.How could this happen?!
She had heard about the soul of the person coming to meet a loved one before it leaves!
She ran into the other room.He was not there. It was true! He had left her for good!!
Oh God she would have died for another chance to mend every little fight! She rolled on the floor in pain. She lost her chance! Forever!
Suddenly there was a noise from the bathroom, the door opened and Rajiv came out and said “Darling, I forgot to tell you my wallet got stolen today”.

LIFE MIGHT NOT GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE. SO NEVER WASTE A MOMENT WHEN YOU CAN STILL MAKE UP FOR YOUR WRONGS!!!

was born to tell i love...

Waiting for your call, I'm sick, call I'm angry
Call I'm desperate for your voice
Listening to the song we used to sing
In the car, do you remember
Butterfly, Early Summer
It's playing on repeat, Just like when we would meet
Like when we would meet

Cause I was born to tell you I love you
And I am torn to do what I have to, to make you mine
Stay with me tonight

Stripped and pollished, I am new, I am fresh
I am feeling so ambitious, you and me, flesh to flesh
Cause every breath that you will take
When you are sitting next to me
Will bring life into my deepest hopes, What's your fantasy?

Cause I was born to tell you I love you
And I am torn to do what I have to, to make you mine
Stay with me tonight

And I'm tired of being all alone, and this solitary moment makes me want to come back home
(I know everything you wanted isn't anything you have)

Cause I was born to tell you I love you
And I am torn to do what I have to, to make you mine
Stay with me tonight
(I know everything you wanted isn't anything you have)

Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well...

Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are ;Who is earning almost as much as you do ;One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are...One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life ;One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to  complain ; to be a servant, a cook, a mother,a wife, even if she doesn't want to ; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her ; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you.

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities.

Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise. 

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met ;One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her.

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many guys understand this......

Please appreciate "HER"

I hope you will do.... :)

DAT PERSON

everybody needs dat one person in their lives who no matter what happens would stand by you, even after listening the worst part of your's... how many of us have them... we always restrict ourselves to the people that are supposed to be meant for us in search of better people.. but in this search we actually don't realize that, good things dont wait for long...no matter how many times i ve tried to blow the chances that has been thrown by destiny on me, it still knocks me, n for a change to let good things happen to me...!!! 

  that one person who would listen to at the most odd hours.. who wud love to hear what is it that is been troubling... who wouldn't find excuses not to listen... who wud be awake even at 3 to talk.. who wud b worried if derz nthng 2 speak at d oder end.. how many of us have that one person..??? in our so called life, which is not actually that complicated as we make it.. derz dat person whuz willing to share every happiness and sorrow with you...

  Many of us actually don't understand the actual value of someone till d worst case comes up... u never know what someone can mean to you if u dont let ur heart open to them.. nobody tries for long.. someday or the other they give up, thinking you are actually not the person they need... u dont show wut dey mean to you and they leave.. without saying a word... everyone has some or the oder excuse for not showing up ... but excuses are an escapade..

  open yourself to the one who loves you... open your thots.. may be dey wont u'stand until u say them..  justt let that vibe reach them dat yes u need dem.. not just to listen but to be loved..!!! life is too short to just blow the chances this destiny has gifted you with... treasure it.. because you never know the one who is waiting for you to open up is actually the same person some1 else is asking for!!!

Because My Love 4 U Is So True, So Unconditional.. .!!!
I never force you to love me,

I never flirt with someone to make you angry,

I never warn you to do not speak with others,

I never say don't do the thing you want,

You are like a bird for me,

free to fly away anywhere you want to go,

Only thing you need to know wherever you go or whatever you do,

When you decide to come back & feel you need me..... ♥

Just remember... !!!

I'm always here for you to give you Oceans of Love, BECAUSE MY LOVE 4 YOU IS SO UNCONDITIONAL, SO TRUE♥♥ !~

Love her... When she sips on your coffee.
She only wants to make sure it tastes just right for YOU!

Love her... When she is jealous.
Out of all the men she can have, she chose YOU!

Love her... When she has annoying little habits that drive you nuts.
YOU have them too!

Love her... When her cooking is bad.
She tries for YOU!

Love her... When she makes you watch corny love dramas while the sport is on.
She wants to share these moments with YOU!

Love her... When she spends hours to get ready.
She only wants to look her best for YOU!

Love her... When often her eyes water suddenly.
She actually had a thought of losing YOU!

Take time to make her feel special....

dat is all she wants...:)

"HAVE YOU EVER?"

Have you ever wanted to dry a tear that you knew you had made fall?
Have you ever said something that you never meant at all?
Have you ever wanted to reach out to someone who was in pain?
Have you ever wanted to give sunshine to someone who lives with rain?
Have you ever wanted a chance to go back and change the past?Have you ever stopped to realize that time slips by too fast?
Have you ever loved somebody and never told them so?
Have you ever held back a question that you really wanted to know?
Have you ever felt you might explode from holding stuff inside?That's when you have to make a CHOICE between HAPPINESS or PRIDE..........

needed wings to fly!!!

Yes I was born this way,
Yes I am born beautiful..
What problem do you have?
Y u keep staring and drool.. !?!?!?!!!

I will walk the way I want with pride,
Even at d dark hours on the lonely path..
My dress ignites your animal inside?
someone Tame this “RAT” before I face it’s wrath !!!

Real men don’t rape, But are we left with any?!!?
Everybody empathize donning a cape,
And the law reaction’s Uncanny !!!!!!!!

I would rather abort my daughter..
Before she faces this ruthless world !!!!!!!
Humanity is been slaughtered,
Ironically I dreamt her to be a “free bird” !!

This is not about the “crime capital” but the criminals set free..
Rapists and molesters must b hanged before WE count upto three .. !!!

This goes out to all of the people who have been broken but have been strong enough to let go. For the people who have hurt so badly that they felt they could never love again, but kept their head up. For those who feel like going back to their old lover would put all the pieces back where they belong and everything would fit, but accept the cold hard truth instead. For the people that learn from their mistakes and never stop moving forward, even when they take two steps back. For the people that wish loneliness wasn’t a part of them, but put up with it anyhow. For the people that are okay with taking up all of the room in the bed, even if sometimes it feels a little empty. For the people who wake up in the morning with no missed calls, but smile anyway. For the people that periodically miss the past, but are so much more excited for the future. For the people that have wounds still healing. For the people that have so much tied to their past relationship, but break those chains to start fresh. For the people that want to look back so badly, but focus on the road ahead. For the people that pick up the phone so tempted to call, but keep their dignity in tact instead. For the people that never wanted to let go, but had to. For the people that still believe in love even after all of the hurt their heart has endured. For all the people that gave up not because they were weak, but because most times it’s better just to let go. We’ll get our happy ending someday.

in my heart is where u are...

The things we did, the things we said

Keep coming back to me and make me smile again

You showed me how to face the truth

Everything that's good in me I owe to you

Though the distance that's between us

Now may seem to be too far

It will never separate us

Deep inside I know you are

Never gone, never far

In my heart is where you are

Always close, everyday

Every step along the way

Even though for now we've gotta say goodbye

I know you will be forever in my life (yeah)

Never gone

No no no

I walk alone these empty streets

There is not a second you're not here with me

The love you gave, the grace you've shown

Will always give me strength and be my cornerstone

(Somehow)

Somehow you found a way

To see the best I have in me

As long as time goes on

I swear to you that you will be

Never gone, never far

In my heart is where you are

Always close (always close)

Everyday (everyday)

Every step along the way

Even though for now we've gotta say goodbye

I know you will be forever in my life (in my life yeah)

Never gone from me

If there's one thing I believe (I believe)

I will see you somewhere down the road again

Never gone, never far

In my heart is where you are

Always close (always close)

Everyday (everyday)

Every step along the way

Even though for now we've gotta say goodbye (yeah yeah)

I know you will be forever in my life (in my life)

Never gone, never far

In my heart (in my heart is where) is where you are (you are)

Always close, everyday

Every step along the way

Never gone, never far

In my heart is where you are

She'll pretend that she's whole again,
but deep inside she doesn't want to just be friends
He'll look her in the eyes and walk right by
Doesn't he see the tears inside?
One day he'll wonder where he went wrong
and he'll know right away when she pretended to be strong
He was afraid of love and the happiness to come,
so he thought it would be easier to turn and run
He may blame her, but deep inside he'll know,
he made the mistake of letting her go

I love you

I love you

Means that I accept you for the person you are and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you when you are in a bad mood or too tired to do things I want to do.

It means loving you when you are down, not just when you are fun to be with. I love you means I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, adding in return that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means I’ll be ok when you are not with me.

Loving you means standing by you even when you are ripping my heart piece by piece.

u either like me or you don't. it took me 20 something yearz to learn how to love myself... I DONT HAVE DAT KINDA TYM TO CONVINCE SOMEBODY ELSE...

You're going to look back at her profile one day and realise just how much she wrote on your wall. Just how much she posted statuses "with" you. Just how many times she messaged you.
You're going to look back at those messages and realise just how much she cared. Just how much she felt the need for you to be ok. Just how much she was hiding so you wouldn't worry.
You're going to realise what she wanted you to know; her secret meaning underneath her words.
You're going to understand just how much you meant to her. Just how much she needed you. You weren't just her best friend, you were her diary; she told you everything. You were her support; holding her up when she just wanted to fall. You were her faith; as long as you were around she always had hope. You were her reason; you always said the right thing to her to make her see the bright side. And you were her saviour; you held her hand through the dark and never made her feel alone.
You're going to realise how much she thought she meant to you. You're going to realise that all that nagging that started the little fights was little in comparison to the worry and fear she kept suppressed. You're going to realise how much she feared losing you. You're going to realise just how badly she needed you to want to live. Just how hard she fought for you.
But you're not going to know all of it. Some things you wouldn't know or understand unless she told you.
Like how she got in trouble for talking to you for too long.
How she got nagged at to stop messaging you all day.
How people told her to be careful of you.
How she sometimes didn't sleep because she didn't know if you were okay, or if she knew you weren't.
How she had to fight to see you.
How she got teased because she was so close to you.
And unless she told you, you'll never know how she never cared what people thought of you, what they said. She didn't care what anyone said. You were her best friend and no one could change that.
And you won't understand how much it hurt her when you said "forget me, it's probably easier that way".
She died inside. She felt like you were giving up on her. She knew that she had caused you great pain in the past. And she knew she was the cause of your pain at that moment. But she never told you how much it hurt her too, both times.
And you'll realise, maybe, why she never pushed you away. Why she always clawed her way back over the wall you were constantly rebuilding.
She needed you, and she hoped you needed her. She didn't care how much shit she got from people. She didn't care certain people hated her because she was so close to you. She didn't care that at times you were hard to talk to.
She didn't care that sometimes you made her cry, made her angry. She didn't care what problems you had with the world.
She needed you. She needed you, for all your faults, flaws and fractures. For all your perfections, understanding and being. She can't name specific reasons she needs you, she just knows she needs all of you.
She placed part of her heart in your hands, without you knowing. She placed a part of her heart into all her friends hands, but she always assumed you never knew, and she was probably right. And she was there even when you fisted your hand over her heart, without knowing. And she was there when your hands were cold, because your mind was too. She never left. She was there even when some other girl demanded your attention. She was there even when another boy demanded more of hers. She was there when her friends had worried her too, and she was there even when every part of her heart was aching. She never once asked you to look at your hands. She never once asked for that part back no matter how much you put it through. She never gave up on you.
And she's probably still there today. She is probably waiting for you to reply to her message. She is probably waiting for you to meet her.
This is where it should hit you. The meaning of all this. The reason why I wrote this. The reason I felt the need to tell everyone this, because maybe they have someone like this in their life, and don't understand why.
She doesn't have to be your girlfriend. She doesn't have to be your 11:11.
She loves you.
Yeah.
She loves you, her best friend. That's a love that takes more guts than a girlfriend or a boyfriend. It's a love she gives to someone with more strings attached than any other kind of relationship. Anyone who loves their best friend knows how many strings are attached. Every string is an expectation, a job, something you have to do, rules you have to abide by. But she doesn't care how many strings there are. She loves you anyway. She knows that you're hard work. She knows you'll sometimes feel like giving up. She knows you'll try and push her away. But she'll never leave you.
You make her laugh. You make her smile. You make her fall off the bed laughing sometimes. You always talk to her in time of need and you make her forget her troubles.
So, before you reply to her message. Before you meet up with her...
Let it sink in.
Stop trying to push her away.
She isn't going anywhere.

FoReVeR n EvEr !!!

Shez far from perfect...
shez scared of the dark !!!
and shez scared of the future :(
shez been hurt way too many times in past...
n she never seems to learn !!!
she makes mistakes and fall in love...
n she doesnt like wen things dont go her way :(
but wen it all comes down to it...
she loves you more den neone in the world ever cud...
she cares way too much n knows way too lil ...
she hates going one day vdout talking to u !!!
n her biggest fear is losing u forever !!!
she misses you more den u ever thot neone cud....
n she wants noone but u in her life ...
coz she knows you are d one dat makes her happy...:)
yeah shez far from perfect ...
but she'd travel to d moon n bak for u !!!
she adores n loves u
n she knows  IT WILL BE DAT WAY FOREVER AND EVER ...

The secrets of relationship

First comes attraction. you are attracted to someone.. But, if you get, what you are attracted to, very easily, the charm goes away- it dies out very fast. however, if what you are attracted to, becomes just a little bit difficult to have, then you develop love for it. have you experienced this? have you observed this?

Now you fall in love! then what happens?

After a while, the soap opera begins!

It is because you love someone, that you give yourself.. and then you start making demands on that relationship. Now, when you start demanding, love diminishes. all the thrill, joy- everything- seems to be fading away. so then you say, "oh! i have made a mistake!" now there's struggle and pain to get out of it..  and after you've got out of it, you get into another relationship- one more relationship- and the same story repeats itself!

what is it that you want to know about relationships? is it really to see, how they can be long lasting. isn't it? what is the secret about relationships, everybody wants to know, how they can be made long-lasting, not how they can be cut off- that of,course, is no secret!! everybody knows about that- just push a button, or a few more buttons, very often! that's it! the relationship will be finished!

3 things are essential in any relationship- right perception, right observation and right expression. often people say that nobody understands them. instead of saying, " no one understands me.." you can say that you have not expressed yourself properly. if you speak Russian to a Spaniard, he will definitely not u'stand! to express yourself properly, you need proper or right perception. this perception can happen, when you see yourself, in the shoes of the other person- when you stand in his shoes and look at the situation.

observing your own mind is essential- this is the second important aspect. this observation within you- the observation of sensations, the observation of tendencies, the observation of the patterns we have- is also essential. perception of the other, and observation of the one's self.. and then comes - right expression, or expressing one's self in the right manner. every mistake you make, is not really a mistake- it's a learning process of the 3 vital aspects of life. what do you say? isn't this so?

perception needs to be expanded. dont just see someone's "outside". if someone is grumpy, or a little finicky, we hold him responsible for his behavior - but, if we see from a wide angle lens, the many aspects will come together. "okay, that person is finicky or fussy, or stressed out, for some reason... and that is reflecting in the relationship". so widening our lens of perception, and not just looking at someone and accusing them, for what they are doing, but rather accommodating them, and seeing things from a larger picture will help in relationships. THIS IS THE "FIRST SECRET".

The second thing is to give... this, of course, we all know! relationships mean giving...and at the same time make the others give also! suppose, you are doing all the service, all the help, and you don't give the person, something to do in return, you're taking there self-worth away from them. sometimes people say, "oh! see! i did so much, but that person still doesn't love me. why??"

this is because they feel uncomfortable. love is, when there is an exchange.. and that can happen, when you give them an opportunity to also do something for you. this needs a little skill. you know, we have to be skillful in making the other also contribute, without us demanding. the only way we know to get someone to do something for us is by demand! then, if your partner doesn't do something for you, love cannot last either because you will take on a self pitying role saying, "see, i do everything! I've been used." we say, " I'm being used." so, you also make use of them, if your love needs to grow! this thing- " I'm being used."- should be taken out of our consciousness. you should know that you are being useful- that's why you're used! if you're useless, how can somebody use you?! most relationship end up this way because we don't have the skill to make the other person contribute. don't you think so? isn't it so?

in a relationship, this is essential. you have to see that the other also contributes in your life, so that they don't feel completely like a worm - worthless - but that they also feel their self worth. for love to blossom, self worth is essential. this is the "SECOND IMPORTANT SECRET".

The third aspect of relationship is to give the other space. when you love someone, we're right " on his neck"!  we don't give them any breathing space.. and they suffocate - and suffocation destroys love. you should give them space.. and you take your space. respect each other's space. take some time off.

for love to blossom, there needs to be longing.. and longing needs a little space.. though it is a lil painful, longing is inevitable. if there is no longing,if we destroy longing, if we don't allow longing to come into a relationship, then love doesn't grow. the charm is lost, so, give them space... and take some space yourself...this is the "THIRD IMPORTANT SECRET"

the fourth aspect is that a relationship should be treated as the dessert, not as the main course! if your life is aimed at some goal, if there is some goal in your life, move in that direction.. and the relationship will move along. if all our focus is just on the relationship, i tell, that is when it will not work... and it doesn't work! you can't have dessert for your main course. you cannot eat it like that. see, if we have a goal in our life, n if both of us have the same goal, we move along in that direction. then, that relationship lasts long. what do u say?

love is essential in relationships, not mere attraction. in attraction there's aggressiveness. in love, there is submission. this is the difference between love and attraction. though attraction does form the first step, we can't stand on the first step for too long. we have to move on to the next pedestal. that is love.

service is an essential ingredient for a successful relationship... and if the relationship comes from the space of giving, rather than need,again, it is a good, "quality" relationship. often we say, "oh! I'm so bored, that is why i need a relationship!" i ask, if you are bored with your own company , how much more boring are you for someone else?!

for a while we look interesting, but in few days, even weeks, though we wont express this to each other, we'll get bored with each other because there is no depth  in us. get rid of the boredom from within you... and be centred- really centred- understand your own self, your own mind.. and calm down. don't be feverish. you know, you don't like to be with someone who is feverish. this feverishness repels you, unless you are so much full of compassion that nobody's feverishness matters anymore!! but specially in relationships, this reduces the charm

when we are in love with someone, we just go on talking, talking ... and talking! there's no need to pull so many words out of those mouths! you can just sit quietly with a smile, watch the sunset, or be with them. learn to be with the person, whom you love, in SILENCE.. this is the art by itself..

when you are in such deep love, you don't know what you are talking! then you go on saying things that you regret afterwards. sometimes, we don't know what we have said that may hurt the other person.when we're centered and when we let go of our feverishness, then we're not bored with ourselves- then our charm becomes long lasting. the nearer a person comes to us, the more the charm will be there. this is the secret of being centered with the self, deep within us.

mind is not a stagnant lake. it is a flowing river - a fast flowing river. when we float with the river, we are in the moment... live every moment like that! dont just brood over the past, or be anxious about the future..

one of the characteristics of love is eternity. when we are in love with someone, we want that moment to be eternal," we should be like this forever and ever!" love is immortal - meaning, beyond time... and that is what we aim at... and that is our nature, our source. just take some time off.. and go within your silence.. then we will see, so much of strength comes out of us, and from that your love becomes, UNCONDITIONAL...

we have heard of unconditional love so may times, but just words don't help. this has to come from our presence. we can lecture on love for hours together, but if its not radiating in our presence, nobody can make it out.. our presence gets drained... initially, when there was presence, there was attraction - but the moment, the presence dilutes, attraction dies out. we simply hang around, we are bored, but still dont want to say that we are bored, and hurt the other person... the other person is also thinking in the same way! so inside the mind there is a big gap, though outside, in your expression, you dont express it... .. you feel so bitter and yet you call and say, "hello honey!" we are saying honey on the outside, but inside, we feel bitter about it! these words do not carry the feeling.. and thats why relationships become such a mess, and break so often.

our love doesn't row old.. our love doesn't becomes ancient.... our love dies infant deaths. love relationships have the highest mortality rate in our society today. the only way to get over is to find time for ourselves... dont talk! all that talk doesn't gives us anything.. it doesn't convey much- it only creates confusion. of course, words are essential, but they have a limit...

just love yourself and the world would love you...!!!

I want to travel the world with two things on my hands. Camera on my right and HIS hand on my left.... :) :)

:)

Its not what i wanted, its not what i thought...
Its not what i crafted, its not what i dreamt of...
But whatever it is.. i wont let it go..
It has taught me to love.. n that's what i wanted to know...:)

ThE bEgInNiNg

A new beginning with a new year. would not have got a better start than this. conquering all your fears just to see a person sounds strange but yes it indeed is true. i sometimes go to the flashback just to recall how it all happened, but there is no such thing that helps me to get the answers i am looking for.. 

this life never turned out to be more perfect than what it is now. definitely there are flaws, things that i don't want but still his presence just washes them all off. Every single day passing with him by my side is making this life of mine more beautiful and meaningful. Before meeting him i always thought what if falling in love even had some traffic lights. So that i would know when i should go for it, when i have to slow down and when i should just stop. The biggest risk in this life is falling for someone.. you never know whether you'll be loved back in turn or you would just be treated like other people in this world. Yes he dint catch my eye right away i wont deny this.. But once he did, i swear i couldn't look away. All i knew was i am not going to find anyone more perfect than him. 

Its unbelievable how the first thought i have in my mind when i get up in the morning is his. Thinking about what he would be doing? would he be thinking about me? how he taught me to live. How he gave me the wings to fly. How he just comforted me when i was going through the worst days of my life. It was because of him i learnt the fact that its not always about trying to fix something broken, may be its about starting over and creating something better. It was because of him i now know that eventually all the pieces will fall into places. Until then all i have to do is laugh at the confusion, live for this moment and just know that everything happens for a reason. Yes everything happens for a reason, i cried, regretted over my decisions, made myself suffer for the ones who did not deserve my presence in their lives. And just after i met him all the clouds of pain just disappeared. It was not a simple journey, had loads of ups and downs but allz well that ends well. i thank god for his generosity otherwise i would not have met such a wonderful person.  

 

With all my heart

You and I were meant to be. why among 10 million people alive on this earth i landed up with you? what called us together. i think about it and all i conclude is all is well if i have you by my side. i dont care what people think about me what dey talk about me all i know is we are the best team of all. You are my best friend and the love of my life, my heart, my soul, the one I want to be with each and everyday. You are the one I want to cheer me on through my life. Your arms are the ones I want to comfort and support me. I love how when you and I work together we can do anything. i'm not perfect.you're not perfect.but we're perfect together. and that's all that matters. I Dont have the Power to give u all the happiness in the world But I promise U To share my all happiness with u n ur bad time with me ..

I can't Promise you Perfection, Because that's not Who I am. I can't Promise you forever, Because I don't hold fate in My Hands. I can't Promise you Sunshine, Because there will Occasionally be Rain. I can't Promise you Complete True Happiness, Because with True Love there is Pain. I can't Promise you a Smile everyday, because Life knows how to make Me Cry. I can't Promise you that I'll Stay Strong, Because Sometimes it's Hard To give Life a Second Chance.

I even know that you're not Perfect, but To Me you are so much More. I know We may not have forever, so I Treasure every Moment we have Together, Coz I don't know If there will be another one in Store. Yes, I'd Like the Sunshine, But I'd Stand with you in the Rain.. Your Happiness is My Happiness,so I'll do whatever It Takes to Rid you of your Pain.

When I saw you Smile for the first Time,I fell in Love..I fell even more in Love the first Time, That I hear you confess your mistakes.. It was at that Moment that I knew that, I wanted to be the One to Protect you, and to Wipe the Tears from your Eyes..!

I know that Life is Difficult, and It has given you,More than your Fair Share of Pain and Lies,But that's Why I'll be your Strength when yours Breaks, and I'll Give you My Wings to fly.. !

forever

& Love U till My Last breath ....



                                                             

Finding perfection in imperfections

everyone asks for what kind of a guy you want in ur life.. every grl drmz of dat one person who wud just come n never go... dreams, wishes, love n future.. for a girl d world starts here n ends up here... n dis is just for a single person she waits for a lifetime n den cherishes for eternity...  i want dis i want dat.. i want a person like dis doing dat... gigiks... all i want is a person who wud scream " i love you" down d halls not caring who heard him.. he wud go on a walk with me in 40 degree weather, cool ice cream in one hand n my hand in his other. he'd sing outloud to any song even if i call him retarded.. he lets me sing outloud n will never call me weird.. he wud sit outside wid me on my front step bcoz derz nthng to do n wont say hez bored once.. he'll let me look like crap wearing a big tshirt n shorts and still calls me beautiful.. he'd write me 1000's of notes everyday.. he wud come to my house to pik me up for a drive.. he'd take me to park and push me on swings.. he wont b shy around my family but act like he's a part of it.. HE'LL ARGUE WID MY FRENS DAT HE LOVES ME MORE.. he'll keep every single promise he makes...he'd run up and hug me wenever he sees me.. he wont b scared to dance in front of me..he'll spend my birthday with me... he picks his frens over me sometimes.. he'll remember our anniversaries before i do...he'll call me in night right before i go to bed just to make sure he is d last voice i hear.. he'd push my hair away wen its in my face.. a boy who wont ask me whats wrong when i look sad, he'll just kiss me on my forehead.. he'll give me his sweatshrt even wen he is freezing n wont make me feel guilty bout it.. he never gets jealous because he already knows i love him more den anythng n wen he says FOREVER ... he means it no matter what...:)

i can go on and on.. flaunt about it from 6 in d mornin  till 12 in d nyt.. but hey hey hey... he might not do even a single thng dat i ever dreamt of... he mite b d most inexpressive guys i can ever find... but i know he wud definitely love me wid all of his heart.. i wud b d last grl in his life.. n dat he wud see his future wid me... dis is what wud make my imperfect guy d most perfect one...  

FORTUNATE ACCIDENT

Time it teaches us so many things... many people around me often get jealous so as to why do i smile so much.. is there nothng in my life that haunts me, troubles me or makes me go crazy... n dis smile is d revenge.. they often commented dat i will never be able to get happiness wid d kind of attitude i possess . n somehow i believed in them.. d biggest mistake of my life.. i let myself down for d ones who wouldn't even care about my presence or absence..

Long time back someone said "good things happen when u don't go for it"... if something has to happen to you it definitely will..  everybody asks me dis question.. y do u so much believe in fate... or what has it given to u dat ur alwyz happy wid whatsoever dat comes in ur life... y is it dat u never complain of wut is happening in ur life... i just have a single answer "DESTINY"
dats d question with d destiny all i know is wen destiny really wanna accomplish somthng it cant do it alone... u still ve to go to dat place.. u still ve to show up.. u still ve to build d bridge to d one u love...

once in our lives if we r very lucky we will find a person who divides d tym before v met dem n d one aftr... it was because of this destiny i found the person i love d most... just thinking bout his absence in my life makes me go crazy... i feel its been eternity knowing him...he is definitely not what i always dreamt of... it sometimes feel vr two different poles.. he is calm n quiet.. n m yak yak girl..:) he makes me believe in myself.. he makes me aware of the things i cant even think of... he is something i cant express in words.. all i know is i wouldn't  have found anyone better than him..